Talk with Dr. P
WELCOME TO "T" WITH DR. P
"...teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." Titus 2:4-5.
Hi, I'm Dr. Prinsez - a strategic leadership coach. I promote healthy talks between women that could improve perspectives about health, wealth, relational and life choices based on biblical principles.
The reason I decided to start this blog is because for years, my experiences have been that women avoid talks about certain topics, or simply don't know how to talk to each other about them. I believe this practice causes us more harm than good. Titus 2:4-5 suggests that women should teach and learn from each other. Although it speaks specifically about older women teaching the young, I believe that sometimes the young can offer insight to the old.
When I was younger, I recall growing up listening to some of the talks my grandmother and mother would have with their family or friends. Their talks were far different from the ones I hear today, and they often left me in the dark about a lot of things. Boy, did I have a lot of questions, and perhaps some of you experienced the same as I. However, although talks today are more open and in multifaceted, I still long to talk in a way that I feel understood, or gain a better understanding and insight about a plethora of life challenges. A lot of women raised in the church, have faced even greater challenges. The conversations are often tailored more towards marriage than topics about entrepreneurship, wealth building, women's health, home buying/selling, education, etc. In my personal experience, when I attended a women's retreat, the information shared was like table talk at best; delivered with little of no interaction or engagement. I realize that some topics can be difficult to discuss, but isn't it even harder to keep it bottled up inside?
A good conversation for me however, is like reading a good book. In my case, I like to read one over a cup of hot herbal tea. That's what inspired the idea for the blog title "T" with Dr. P; the T which stands for talk, also sounds like having tea. So, what then should be the first topic for discussion? I'd like to start by talking about your thoughts on the verse at Titus 2:4-5. Specifically, is there a conversation you desired to have with an older lady when you were young, that may have changed the way you handle things today? I'll go first. I would liked to had talked about and understood, what I know now, the importance of not allowing access to my body to those seeking access for their own pleasure. It took me years to learn on my own, the problems it will cause emotionally and psychologically. Now that I know, I seek to explain it's importance to my young niece in hope that she will grow up understanding it's value.
So now it's your turn, so grab a cup, it's "T" time!
Sip on that...☕
O my... I love this!!! O if I could turn back the hands of time...
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DeleteThank you Valerie. Yes it would be nice to have the wisdom we've gained since then, back when it would've been most useful. But that is why it's so important for us to share it with the up and coming now. Your blogs offer great perspectives for encouraging positive thinking and actions. And it promotes self acceptance which is a good thing. But how many of us still consider those awkward conversations. As I watch our young women, I still see evidence of the struggle to figure things out. Some attitudes and frustrations are based on having to learn the hard way. And so the cycle continues...
DeleteVery good read! Yes, I also believe there are conversations we as women shy away from. Possibly due to lack of knowledge. At the age of 30 there are certain things I wish I knew years ago, especially the topics you mentioned. I also would like to mention that we may not have been taught or exposed to certain topics because our elders did not have access to the many resources that we do today to educate themselves or each other to be passed down to future generations.
ReplyDeleteThank you for contributing to the conversation. Wow 30! That seems so long ago to me now, and although I miss those youthful years, I do not miss how blindly I moved through them. I realize now that I had absolutely no idea what I was doing and no one I could turn to to help me figure things out. So tell us GB, what would you like to learn? What questions have you for us, and better still what do have to share with us that we might learn from you going forward?
ReplyDelete"An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge." Proverbs 18:15. Sip on that a minute ☕️
Entrepreneurship, wealth building, women's health, and home buying/selling are all topics I would like to gain more knowledge in. As an entrepreneur myself, this would be greatly beneficial.
DeleteGB you are so right, it would be beneficial to gather insight wherever possible as we pursue greatness. I will do some research and post links to the information I find useful, and I will invite others to do the same. Furthermore, I invite you and all the women to offer any information, no matter how seemingly small. It will surely prove useful. I will post individual conversations that addresses each topic as we progress. Thanks for getting the tea flowing; it adds honey to our T time.
Delete"Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones."
Prov 16:24
Now that's worth another cup.
Content information was good also. I'm sure there are a lot of sisters that could have a subject matter to speak on . We tend to be everything to others and have no room to take care of ourselves. Thanks
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment shared. When we start to realize the importance of connection and community. it might create a shift in how we begin to talk. Talking doesn't mean agreement as much as it does respectfully and genuinely seeking to gain knowledge and with that understanding (Proverbs 4:5).
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Let's sip on that ☕️
I like the idea of straight talk between women. Let's make the new normal for women supporting each other and stop tearing each other down and viewing each other as the enemy. For the record I am not in agreement with the principles referenced in Titus 2:4-5 that espouses patriarchal lock step nonsense.
ReplyDeleteThanks for contributing. What I think I understand in your comments is that there was a time and may still be, that women often create barriers instead of tearing them down. Why do you think that is? When do you think it begun and how do we train up our young women differently going forward? Lastly, how does cherry picking scriptures become a solution to creating connections?
DeleteIt's T time ☕️🫖
Dr. P
Great insight and information. As women we need a source of comfort where we can express how we feel freely and un judged. Women need the wisdom of other women who have been in similar situations they are in or have been in. I wish I had a open platform where I could talk freely and get advice in my young adult life. I truly believe women need a support group to guide them and nurture them through life.
ReplyDeleteThanks for adding to this conversation Tasha! I agree that for women, it is paramount to feel safe in the world we live in, and that includes our talks. This applies whether we're talking to love interests, families, communities or friends. But how is this done? How do we speak with each other in a way that there is real concern, compassion and care. Well, I suggest that we become purposeful. How does that look? According to James 1:19, it requires "...every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger..." Part of the reason it's so uncomfortable for some of us is that we find it hard to move beyond our emotions, and thus we easily become offended or hurt. For others, you can barely get a word in, before they've interrupted with thoughts of their own, and then there are those who are so preoccupied or off-putting to the point that we don't even try to open up. I know how frustrating these habits can be, and I'm so sorry if this has been your experience, as it has been with me.
DeleteBut it's a new day and there's hope. I cannot fix what's broken, but I can do my part to create a new dynamic that might make the difference. I am encouraged you have joined in this T. I can hardly wait to partake of the brew we'll all share.
Sip on that...
Wonderful idea, I can appreciate an impactful and discussion of context. It seems with all of the crazy of the world this is missed by so many but it is great to see your platform address the desire to connect on substance.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind input. Please feel free to ask or share. It's not just a me thing, it's us. I want to learn some things to. My next post will start with topics and questions. It is my hope that our T will warm up and start relaxing us enough to engage with one another. Grab your cup; it's "T" time. 87)
DeleteWonderful blog, my friend! Congratulations! Blessings abundant to you!
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DeleteThank You. This is very refreshing.
DeleteThank you. A good T, like tea, can offer many benefits. Grab your cup and let's have a T.
DeleteHello my friend. Congratulations!!!! This is a great topic. It's my experience that's what's missing in today's space. Open, honest communication and a safe space to have them. It seems like everyone wants to please everyone and not have those hard conversations with honesty.
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